Core identity is a phenomenon that occurs naturally. It is basic to your awareness of your surroundings. When you awaken in the morning there are moments of observing the morning. Your senses notice pleasant or unpleasant smells, soothing or annoying sounds, stiff or relaxed muscles, and warm or cool body temperature. Your emotions may be peaceful from a good night’s rest or unsettled from distressing dreams. Core conscious expands as you contemplate the day ahead to include interactions with and expectations from others. As that awareness comes into focus, Core self contemplates plans for facing the day.
The waking thoughts can be in a range described by the old cliche with two options – “Good morning Lord. I have another day to enjoy.” or “Good Lord, it’s morning. I don’t want to face today.” When the memory of a day’s requirements come to mind, emotions follow. Eagerness or dread sets the stage for how much you will live from your Core identity that day. Core self naturally looks forward to each moment without judgment.
Core self desires to engage in life unless significant negative factors exist. The conscious waking moment may bring to mind something we don’t want to face that day and with the discomfort your Core self may think about how you wish to act to endure or to avoid the discomfort.
The plan you develop for the day to deal with the discomfort may result in you not being your genuine self. Core self does not eagerly invest energy into activities that are boring or frustrating. Others may observe that you are just biding your time. However, if the activities of the day feel unsafe and you must attend, Core self puts on a persona that can “Fake it until you make it” through your day.
Core self being executive in his/her mind will face the day moment by moment. If overwhelmed, Core self will pace the day to regulate emotions rather than become overwhelmed. If unsafe, the Core self as an adult knows there are choices and takes them. In such situations, the healthy Core self does not worry about what others will think, but rather acts out of Core values to sustain integrity.
You may think that this is too idealistic to be possible. The book, Coming to Awe, Finding Identity, will address these issues and pose ways that Core integrity can be sustained, even in times of stress or distress. This parallels the blog on Mark Driscoll’s series on Identity. Click here to read that blog.