Depression is Hard to Relate to Unless You’ve Had It.
Depression is one of the most troublesome human emotions.The suffering can be so deep that words cannot express what is felt. Depression quashes all hope that a good outcome will result. For friends of the depressed person, it takes courage to sit silently with him or her. Any attempt to reassure falls on deaf ears. Hope may be lost.
The scientific reasons why human beings suffer depression is neurochemical and neurocognitive. Stress affects the brain and central nervous system. If stress is not regulated by rest and stress management, the chemicals in the nervous system become depleted. Quick and effective responses by the mind and body are reduced.
The neurocognitive ability in our brain changes as well. We come to think emotionally rather than rationally. Seven emotional thought patterns are the reasons for depression.
7 Reasons for Depression.
1. Feeling guilty for your actions and choices – When you and I examine our choices and actions honestly, we become conscious of making choices that do not reflect our desired character. We lie to others to cover our wrong choices, compounding our guilt.
Even when we know right from wrong spiritually, we act other than what would be honoring to God. Our Relational self might rationalize that others do these same wrong things so it is acceptable. As our wrong choices and actions mount up, depression results. Making amends can resolve this impasse.
2. Feeling ashamed for how others see or define you – Shame is based on others seeing us as inherently flawed as a person. Society labels people as “bad seed” or “good-for-nothings” based on the social group to which we belong. Anyone who does not comply to group standards is judged by others as unacceptable. The community where the person lives may have reason to use shame to control, rather than speak truth.
3. Facing rejection or abandonment by loved ones – If one parent leaves the family by divorce, a younger child perceives that parent as abandoning him or her because the parent no longer is there. If the parent who left was a nurturing figure to the child, an emptiness remained. If the custodial parent had personal issues with the spouse who left, the child could not know why the loss happened. The child came to believe whatever reason the remaining parent gave as the reason the other left. The child needs the truth but may not discover it until years later.
4. Facing grief and loss – Another person or position can give life meaning. To have that relationship taken away for whatever reason can leave a person without an anchor in life. Time is generally what brings answers. Until found, there is a state of depression that hovers over one until sense can be made of it. It may be necessary to find someone or something that replaces what was lost and provides meaning again.
The Depressive Triad
The three last factors in depression are difficult each on their own. If they combine together, the despair can reach beyond human endurance.
5. Helplessness: being trapped by circumstances without an escape – Our belief is that “life is too hard.” Every attempt to manage life brings overwhelming feelings. In reality, our perspective needs to change to “life is too big.” As we reduce our choices to bite sizes pieces, things become manageable.
6. Haplessness: finding yourself at the mercy of unfair circumstances – “It’s not fair” is the battle cry of the hapless. Fairness is not easy to find. Fairness and justice are not necessarily the same. Often, fairness is mistaken for things being equal.
7. Hopelessness: finding yourself without meaning or future – You and I want to know that our life means something; that there is a reason to go on. We need to have a reason to continue in life. Whether for the sake of another person or a cause, each human being needs to count.
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Action Point – If you have struggled with depression, comment on what kind and any insight you gained from this blog.
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